Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Turn and face the ch-ch-changes

We had a really nice weekend, barbecue by the swimming pool and hanging out next to each other a lot in the office at our respective computers (bliss). We finally bought Little S his cute skate-bike that he´d been promised for Christmas. We found a place where we can buy direct from the manufacturer so it only cost 40 dollars, next to nothing really for S´s bike and it´s really made well.

This weekend we talked a lot about the future and what we can expect the next few years--our life is a perpetual roller coaster and we have no idea why. It especially hasn´t been an easy past few weeks.

But we are together and we are a little family and that´s all that really matters to us. We have so much to be thankful for.

We may not be staying in Mexico after all and admitting that has been tough. We could stay here if we wanted to, the situation will allow for it but we will have to make sacrifices. Seb´s career will suffer. The contracts he was here to work on have been delayed a few years and he will have to sit and twiddle his thumbs while things come together. He isn´t very good at that and he will be bored. I know he needs something to excite him. It´s what makes him happy. And he will have a two year stretch on his resumé that says "thumb twiddling" and that would be a shame.

We love the life here. For the first time since we bought our house we have had family time together. The weekends haven´t been spent in building supply stores, entire paychecks dropped on bathtub plumbing and we haven´t once had a shower outside. Mexico is beautiful and the people are friendly and helpful, often late and unreliable but usually willing to do what they can to help. If we leave we will certainly miss this place.

And doing another international move so soon? Honestly you may as well just shoot me. My friend Bea says they will always refer to their move back to the US as "the year we MOVED" said in a loud thundering voice. It all came up in their marital counseling to which the counseler said "a move like that is very difficult on a family...let some more time go by." And I told her "I completely understand where you´re coming from." (except try being pregnant for the move and you´ll be even more on the edge of insanity).

Maybe a miracle will come out of the sky and we´ll get to stay a few more years. We always hear people say that Mexico is closer to God than other countries. If so maybe he will hear my plea a little louder, ..."make it work somehow, pleeeeease!"

8 comments:

Jennifer said...

OMG. I can't write about this on my blog for fear of someone from my husband's company reading, but we am in the exact same place. I could have written the same post today (but instead had to write something very vague and secretive).

I feel for you.

Jennifer said...

we are/I am.

Dude, I ALWAYS leave typos in my comments to your posts.

christine said...

Typo Queen I am lately too because this new computer has a fancy wireless keyboard and it either double typpes letters (see!!) or it leaves them out all together.

I just read your post and I´m really surprised because I think that last year we both posted about our husbands finally being around all week and now this same problem at the same time. Odd.

Em said...

Oh dear. You have barely had time to get settled. I hope it works out so you can stay a bit longer. Do you have any idea of where you would go next? Back to France? Elsewhere?

Jennifer said...

Chris,

I have a wireless keyboard too. Let's blame all typos on the keyboard from now on. As well as mishaps around the house. Burn dinner? Darn that lousy keyboard!

I do think our lives have lots of similarities, especially considering the driven husband factor. What you wrote about your husband needing professional stimulation rang true with me. When he was miserable in his last job in Milan (which ended up being the reason we moved from Milan, another traumatic change that turned out not so bad), life with his was miserable.

Now when he wants to [incessantly] discuss the possibility of moving and career aspirations, I repeat the following: "I would rather stay here but more than that I want you to be happy with your job." Otherwise we'd all be miserable along with him, and it wouldn't be worth it.

christine said...

haha we do say similar things to our husbands. I have been chanting that same refrain for a few weeks.

Funny side note is that I always tell Seb if he gets a job offer in Italy he doesn´t have to even discuss it with me...we´re going. Sadly we´ll probably end up back in France.

Anonymous said...

Sorry things are not working out so well after all you went through to get here. Hopefully things will turn around soon, one way or another!

christine said...

Thanks Lauren I would be so relieved if we could stay under good circumstances. We aren´t ready to go home yet.